What do you consider beautiful? Do you feel comfortable on your body? For some reason there is this current obsession on achieving unrealistic standards that puts pressure on both woman and men, but specially on the first ones. Which just creates unbalance and increases stress and obsessive behaviors. Even fear to ageing, which is a natural process that occurs to every living being.
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| Mona Kardashian, or Kim Lisa? |
And I ask myself... What kind of life are we living if we are so focused on our external self that this obsession obscures anything else? How can we find peace if we are prompted to pursue an impossible, and changing, trend based on our body image? Beauty is conceptualized by each culture, and era, differently. So let's learn to love ourselves the way we are. Because we will always find someone that finds us ugly. Yes, despite all the make up we might wear or our body type. But there will also be someone that thinks we are gorgeous. Of course, I am talking about acceptance. Not about resignation. If there is a physical aspect that you can work on like getting fitter or taking care of your skin to get rid of afflictions like acne. Then that is perfect, do all you can to feel comfortable in your skin and don't feel ashamed on your way there because there is no such thing as a standardized perfection.
We can break this cycle by ignoring it. Let's stop judging (ourselves and others) based on the external appearance. And let's create a new idea of what is beautiful.
Have you ever stopped to think of why we look like we do? Well it's all about genetics. Half of it comes from your mother, and the other half from your father. At the same time your parents are half their parents and so on. So in the end our looks are a reflection of all our ancestors. Plus the choices that compound our individuality. The things we connect with. So learn to love yourself the way you are.
Have you ever stopped to think of why we look like we do? Well it's all about genetics. Half of it comes from your mother, and the other half from your father. At the same time your parents are half their parents and so on. So in the end our looks are a reflection of all our ancestors. Plus the choices that compound our individuality. The things we connect with. So learn to love yourself the way you are.
Once I read that a spiritually sensitive being finds delight in natural beauty, in artistic manifestations and in the simplicity of small things.Also, that he/she is able to detect beauty, and enjoy it, without pretending to possess it. Taste deeply the expressions of beauty that appear in reality, which allows you to enjoy more intensely the fact of owning life.It is beautiful what springs from the inner psychic need. Beautiful will be what is inwardly beautiful.
Very true. I think we've probably all encountered people in life who we've considered to be remarkably attractive but whom have turned out to be the most terrible bores (and vice versa)!
ReplyDeleteSadly, I think it's human nature to judge people based upon appearance and it may not be as easy to avoid doing as we'd like. For example, it's been suggested that those with facial symmetry, a clear complexion and bright eyes, are more likely to be given promotions at work or lighter prison sentences (Becker-Phelps and Kaye, 2016).
However, I really do believe that looks pale in comparison to other personal attributes - one example being emotional intelligence. This concept, pioneered by author Dale Goleman (well worth reading), essentially describes how we relate to ourselves and others (e.g. empathy, self-control, negotiation and communication skills, ability to work as part of a team) and is arguably one of the most important determinants of career and social success.
Great remark Lawrence! It really adds up to the content of the article. Thank you for your comments! :)
DeleteYes it is sad we are unconsciously judgemental, luckily we can overcome that through emotional intelligence.